Monday, June 7, 2010

What I didn't expect about motherhood

I am often asked by my single and/or childless friends what I did not expect about being a mother. Here is a list of some of them. Some of them I had an inkling would occur, but I didn't really understand it until it happened.
  • The necessity of sweeping the kitchen after every time Jill eats pretty much anything. If you are lax in this, even by just the time from breakfast to lunch, the ants will find the crumbs, and they will take over. (I actually even dreamt about giant ants last night.) (Luckily, our ants go away as soon as the food is gone, so that is a blessing.)
  • The difficulty of a shower. Jill cries the whole time I am in the shower. If she is outside of the bathroom, she will just cry and cry and destroy anything she can get her hands on. If she is in the bathroom, she will cry and destroy anything she can get her hands on and try to get in the shower with me. If we take a bath together, I just never feel like I get as clean. And sometimes she thinks it's an all-you-can-drink buffet. Sigh. I like to shower when Jeff is home.
  • The amount of dirty diapers babies go through. I hadn't really comprehended how many diapers there would be to change and how important diaper cream is.
  • The lack of sleep. Two nights ago, Jeff and I kept Jill up two hours past her bedtime. She was cheerful and handled it well. Until she went to sleep. Then she got me back by waking up every two hours for the whole night. Every two hours, like clock work. Granted, she is usually a lot better now, it is usually only once a night, sometimes twice, sometimes never, but when she was an infant, there was very little sleeping happening for me.
  • The fact that almost everyone loves babies and toddlers. I have never had so many strangers speak to me until I had a baby. Actually, they don't speak to me. They speak to Jill. Sometimes when I respond, they actually don't respond to me, but keep smiling at/laughing at/speaking to Jill. Awkward.
  • The self-centeredness of a child. Her world revolves around her right now. Period. End of story. I have no needs, no role other than serving her needs. She is also not very patient. I hope I do a good job of teaching her patience and that the world does not actually revolve around her.
  • The importance of planning your schedule around the baby or toddler. I know I just said that the world does not revolve around her, haha, but my world does. Food, sleep, drinking, etc. all need to happen when Jill feels the need for them. Otherwise her world and my world are not very pleasant.
  • The all encompassing desire to make her smile or laugh. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing joy shown through her face.


    1. I LOVE this picture of Jill, and what a great list!

    2. I was just talking to Scotty last night about how hard marriage can be, and that we never imagined it could be hard...not because we didn't think our trials would be hard, but that we couldn't even think of the trials that we would have!!! It is exactly the same with being a parent! I'm always surprised at the things in parenting that come up. I ask my mom why she didn't warn me, and she usually tells me that she didn't remember! So much for learning from our parents! lol

    3. While it's true that babies and kids are the most expensive, inconvenient, panic-inducing creatures who create more and more chaos as they grow, I thank Heavenly Father everyday to have the little buggers.

      I loved your post...really took me back to when Nicky was a newborn, Jessica 1 yo and Ben 3 yo! Three in diapers!! Quite frankly don't know how I got thru those days. Oh, wait, yes I do...the Spirit!

    4. not to mention nap time- don't forget nap time! i feel like putting a big sign on my door and a new voicemail message on my phone "i cannot do anything right after lunch- ever. so don't ask" people just don't get it! "o well can't they just take a late nap?" "no cuz then they will sleep through dinner and not go to bed" "can't you just wake them after and hour" "no cuz then they are cranky plus i need nap time for me to get stuff done or nap myself and 1 hour isn't long enough" "can't you just skip naps today- just once?" ARE YOU FREAKIN KIDDING ME??

    5. omg heather 3 in diapers? not only would that be so tough because all you would ever do is change diapers, but talk about breaking the bank!! i am trying so hard to get andrew out of diapers before the new baby comes but it is just not happening. i had 2 in diapers for almost a year and i never want to do that again!!


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