Thursday, February 4, 2010

I Would Die for That

I saw this video on a blog of one of my friend's. (If you're on facebook or e-mail, you'll have to actually go to my blog to watch the video.) The singer is Kellie Coffey, and the song is about infertility. It is amazing how completely naive I was about infertility until around when I turned 21. I grew up assuming that people got married and had babies. Period. Life story for everyone.

That is not the life story for everyone, and this song illustrates that.

Kellie Coffey—"I Would Die for That"

Jenny was my best friend.
Went away one summer.
Came back with a secret
She just couldn't keep.
A child inside her,
Was just too much for her
So she cried herself to sleep.

And she made a decision
Some find hard to accept.
Too young to know that one day
She might live to regret.

But I would die for that.
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands
All that she had.
I would die for that.

I've been given so much,
A husband that I love.
So why do I feel incomplete?
With every test and checkup
We're told not to give up.
He wonders if it's him.
And I wonder if it's me.

All I want is a family,
Like everyone else I see.
And I won't understand it
If it's not meant to be.

Cause I would die for that.
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands
All that they have.
I would die for that.

And I want to know what it's like
To bring a dream to life.
For that kind of love,
What I'd give up!
I would die for that.

Sometimes it's hard to conceive,
With all that I've got,
And all I've achieved,
What I want most
Before my time is gone,
Is to hear the words
"I love you, Mom."

I would die for that.
Just to have one chance
To hold in my hands
What so many have
I would die for that.

And I want to know what it's like
To bring a dream to life.
How I would love
What some give up.
I would die . . .
I would die for that.

This song brings up various thoughts and memories. The first being that abortion, in so many cases, is tragic. A waste of life. A death. I wish that more focus would be on educating young people as to how an abortion will really affect the rest of their lives.

My next thought is the phrase, "I gave up my baby for adoption." I cannot imagine how hard it must be to give your baby to another couple to raise. I am impressed by the strength and wisdom of those who are able to realize that they cannot offer their baby what another couple can. What an honorable decision. I have friends who are adopted, and I have friends who have adopted, and what a wonderful gift the birth parents gave to them.

Then my thoughts go to her phrase of "I would die for that." I am not Kellie Coffey, nor her friend, (nor the songwriter!) so I don't know what the exact meaning of the expression is, but it is now out there for anyone to interpret, so here I go. My first thought is that it is an expression meaning that she would do anything, give anything, go through anything to be able to have children. The next thought is the sobering fact that pregnancy and childbirth has killed many women. Many women have decided, "I would die for that." While modern advances in health care (at least in some parts of the world) have definitely decreased the number of deaths due to pregnancy and delivery, it still happens. It is a sacrifice.

I know of woman who found out she had cancer after she was pregnant, and she choose to not undergo any treatment, so that her baby could live. Her baby did live, and the mother did die. She said, "I would die for that." And she died for her child.

Would I die for Jill?

Yes. In a heartbeat.


  1. What a great message in the song.

  2. I turned on the TV for Kadon and Brooklyn right before I sat down to check my email because they were fighting and driving me crazy. I opened up your blog and cried along with this video. In the stress of everyday, it is so easy to forget the three gifts I have been given. I know friends who are completely infertile, and will never have a house filled with children like I do. I'm going to go hug my blessings now-thank you.

  3. Hey Its Becky- from Highschool!

    This song definitely has a personal touch for me. My husband and I got married and tried for four years before we were able to get pregnant. It took many doctors and many pills to finally get or miracle baby. I like you had no clue for the longest time that stuff like that even happened. It seemed so simple. It was such heartbreaking and stressful four years, but in the end it finally paid off.

  4. o stop making me cry.
    i hear there is going to be a big thing on it during superbowl- some big awesome football player- dunno who- his mom was told by the doctors to abort him because he would have problems- some like random regular person is sponsoring it- the most expensive airtime on television.

  5. This video still makes me cry every time. So beautiful and sad.

    Update though: after five years of trying and being approved for adoption without a baby getting placed with them, my friend Holly is miraculously pregnant naturally!


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