so i really am learning so much in my classes... i love it.
here are some interesting facts i learned in my human development class. it's so cool right now because my human development class and my general psychology class are both talking about adolescence so i get to hear it from two different teachers, with their different viewpoints, and of course the two different textbooks are interesting too.
anyway here they are
this was a study done by robin gilmour in 1988. some of these answers might seem weird to you like "i look for a man that has good abstract reasoning" but they're accumulative. she added what different people said and put them in the top ten categories, like she would put "hott" "cute" "pretty" "sexy" "beautiful" into "physically attractive" catch my drift? okay before you read these quickly think about what five or ten characteristics you want in your future partner, or current partner for some, or what you think your partner would like in you...
okay women on average look for these desirable qualities in their men:
1. a record of achievement
2. leadership qualities
3. skills at his job
4. earning potential
5. sense of humor
6. intellectual ability
8. common sense
9. athletic ability
10. good abstract reasoning
so we're thinking hmm women can be kind of shallow... then we see what the research brought up for the average man looking for desirable qualities in a woman:
1. physical attractiveness
2. ability in bed
3. warmth and affection
4. social skill
5. homemaking ability
6. dress sense
7. sensitivity to others' needs
8. good taste
9. moral perception
10. artistic creativity
i think it's funny that the guys threw "moral perception" there at the end.
so yeah these are just interesting facts to think about
a research done in 1979 by hill, rubin, and peplau discovered three more interesting facts:
*women are more likely to end the relationship
*rejected men tend to be lonelier, unhappier, and more depressed than rejected women
*rejected men find it harder than rejected women to accept the end of the relationship and manage to stay friends
and the third interesting fact of the day...
we were learning about rites of passage in traditional cultures, like boys becoming men and girls becoming women
in kenya, some tribes have boys become men in an interesting way
boys aren't circumsized until they are sixteen years old and are given nothing to dull the pain
they are men if they bear it without making noise or indicating any pain or discomfort
it is then known about town how the boy (now man) was able to handle it...
yeah and i thought our dating rituals were painful.
that rite of passage definitely takes the cake
so yeah think about these. wonder why rejected men get more depressed and women end relationships more... i mean would you have guessed that?
did the average qualities match up with yours?
it's just food for thought...