Friday, October 31, 2008

Happy Halloween!

My favorite little monkey! Well, my Halloween festivities this year were limited to making chili for the Halloween Chili Cook-off at work (I did not win) and enjoying the costumes of others.

Some of my favorites were the girl from The Ring, the little monkey you see below, a nudist on strike haha (he was wearing clothes and holding a protest sign), SpongeBob Square Pants, and this elaborate shark costume. It's so fun to see what people come up with! Next year, I'm going to have to put some time aside dedicated to thinking of a costume. :) I know I could be creative if I just work at it. Haha.

Ryan Blake Bellows


Okay, here's who he really belongs to. :) Zach Blake and Brooke Bailey Bellows. Haha. I always include Ryan's middle name, so I figured his parents should get some special treatment too. Hehe.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

What I Stand For

There are many issues swirling around today that alarm me, and while I usually tend to keep my opinion to myself, I find I can no longer. Things I love are under attack, and things I know to be dangerous to others are being promoted. I cannot idly stand by as this occurs.

If any of you are unclear where I stand, here are my opinions.

I am against almost all abortions. I think it is only necessary in very few cases, and it is being used in many more cases than that. In fact, there are over 40 million abortions a year worldwide. I believe the decision on whether or not to have a child should be made before the action that creates a child is committed. If you are not willing to possibly have a child, then you should not have sex. Actions have consequences, and killing life does not erase that fact. If you have already had an abortion, I do not believe you are an evil person. I believe you made a bad decision, yes, and I hope you would not make the same decision in the future. If you are currently pregnant and are considering abortion, please keep an open mind and consider adoption as well. Here is some information that could help you.

I believe that legal marriage should only be between a man and a woman. I do not believe it discriminates against homosexual people to defend that time-honored definition. I do not dislike homosexuals; I will not stop being any of their friends. I will not call them names; I will not belittle them. But I will do all that I can to stop them and those who are for it from changing the definition of marriage that is the very basis of society and everything I believe in. A person does not have the right to marry anyone he or she wishes to. We do not have the right to choose anything or anyone. Men cannot marry men. Women cannot marry women. People cannot marry animals. A 40 year-old cannot marry a 12 year-old. A man cannot marry more than one woman, and a woman cannot marry more than one man. Marriage is a privilege, not a right. It is a word with a definition that I do not want to have changed.

I believe prostitution should be illegal. I believe sexual intercourse is something for a legally married man and woman—not teenagers, not unmarried people, not married people with other people not in their marriage. If it is too late for you, I do not think you are damned. I think second chances are available for everyone. While virginity cannot be restored, purity can.

I believe pornography is addictive, dangerous, and destructive. I believe it corrupts minds, destroys relationships, and demeans sexual intercourse. If you are already struggling with this, please do not give up. There is help available, and you can overcome it.

I believe divorce is a destroyer of families. I believe it hinders our society and hurts our children. I believe that while it is necessary in a few cases, it is massively overused, simply because people are selfish. Love is not something that can be fallen out of. It is a choice. It is a decision to make someone else more important than yourself. Please understand that I know I am speaking in general terms here. There are individual situations when divorce is necessary for the mental and physical health of the spouse and children. But these situations exist, because the abusive partner did chose to make him- or herself more important than his or her spouse. I also believe that divorce should not be a solution. Whenever possible, therapy should be sought. For second chances exist for everyone, and anyone can change. While trust takes years to regrow, it is well worth it if the offending partner is truly willing to change.

Educate yourself. If you don't know what you stand for or why you espouse certain doctrines, it is time for you to find out.

Family Watch International has great resources and information. Click here to learn more about abortion, equal rights, why marriage is good for society, and more. Click here to learn more about Family Watch International and what they stand for. They have a newsletter that you can subscribe to through e-mail, so you can be updated once a week on the global happenings and issues that will affect you whether you ignore them or not.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Warren Barfield—Love Is Not A Fight

So, there is a really worthwhile movie out right now called Fireproof. I am so excited about it. It is a movie that actually agrees with how I feel about marriage, love, etc. Amazing, right?

Anyway, the song below is used in the movie, and I really like it. Here are the lyrics:

Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It's a house we enter in
And then commit to never leave
So lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We'll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

To some, love is a word that they can fall into
But when they're falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

Love will come to save us, if we'll only call
He will ask nothing from us, but demand we give our all

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

I would fight for you, would you fight for me?
It's worth fighting for.

Music Video with Clips from the Movie

More about the movie:
Here is a review.
Here is the official website.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

My sis, Ames


I made this for my sister's blog, for her banner. I'm pretty excited about it. Hehe.

Always Another Fault

"It is in the home that our behavior is most significant. It is the place where our actions have the greatest impact, for good or ill. Sometimes we are so much at home that we no longer guard our words. We forget simple civility. If we are not on guard, we can fall into the habit of criticizing one another, losing our tempers, or behaving selfishly. Because they love us, our spouses and children may be quick to forgive, but they often carry away in silence unseen injuries and unspoken heartache... When we feel anger or contention in our homes, we should immediately recognize what power has taken control of our lives and what Satan is endeavoring to accomplish. Solomon provided us this wise formula: 'A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger' (Prov. 15:1). Our home should ideally be a refuge where each member feels safe, secure, loved, and insulated from harsh criticism and contention that we so often encounter in the world."
—Elder Wayne S. Peterson, "Our Actions Determine Our Character," Ensign, Nov. 2001, 84

It is sad but true that those we love are often those we treat the worst. It can be so hard to learn to guard your tongue.

It's funny; I used to have a massive temper. For the past two years, I've worked on my temper, learning to control it, because I knew that children and tempers did not mix. Now, I've pretty much got that in hand, and I have a new bad habit to replace it.

Now, I'm all defensive and touchy. It's so embarrassing. I don't know why, but my new thing is to always assume that everyone is attacking me when no one really is. I keep reading everything to be the worst possible. :(

I don't even know how it's possible. How can I be someone who consistently looks for the best in others and gives them the benefit of the doubt, but whenever someone says something to me, I think they mean it in the most offensive way possible, and I defend myself. This could be my latent anger maybe, or it could mean that I think the worst things about myself, so I assume that others are saying them too.

Sigh.

Whenever we concur one fault there is always another one waiting to erupt. At least that's how it feels for me. I'll keep trudging forward though, fully knowing that some day, one day, I will be perfect. I'll be dead first, haha, but I'll be perfect!

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Well . . .

So, I haven't been blogging much recently, because I am pregnant, and so most of my life right now has to do with my pregnancy, which until now I have been keeping under the wraps. I am officially telling everyone now. I am pregnant. I am 11 weeks along, and I am due on May 8. Yay!

Understanding

"'Words do not convey meanings; they call them forth.' I speak out of the context of my experience, and you listen out of the context of yours, and that is why communication is difficult."
--David O. McKay, Ensign, May 1996, Page 9

I think this is a very interesting, and wise, quote. Words truly have no meaning other than what people think they have. Without the meaning every person individually gives words, they're just a bunch of meaningless letters and sounds.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Chantilly Victoria Poulton: Coming Soon!

Brooke and I were lucky enough to get to throw a shower for our friend, Brittany. Brittany's husband and Brooke's husband are childhood best friends, and Brooke's husband and Jeff (my husband) were freshman roommates. All three boys get along great, and then the girls were added, haha, so here we are. :) It was a fun day!

Brittany's sisters, mother, and friends made it wonderful. Tasty food. Yummy chocolate, fun games, and great presents. Brooke and I had a lot of fun planning and getting things ready. It makes me excited for my baby shower some day.

Doesn't Brittany look beautiful?


Silly I know, but I thought the balloons looked really cool. Hehe.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Indiana Party

Yeah! I got to see some of my friends from good old Indiana. :) Suzy was nice enough to have the shin dig at her house the day before her birthday. Good times were had by all and tasty food was enjoyed.

Abby and Reed McGrew—new McGrew to be joining us next month! David Anderson McGrew maybe? I have trouble remembering the name they chose. :( I'm a bad friend.

The rest of the gang. We sure did fit on the couch! Oh yeah, and Eric showed up later. So (left to right), Mimi Collett, Suzy Boyce, Robbie Bullough, Brett Noble, Than Boyce, and Julia Boyce.

Thanks everyone for coming and contributing to the good time! It was great to play Euchre again!

Thursday, October 9, 2008

I'm an aunt again!

Peter and Mindee had a baby girl yesterday at 3:31 pm. She's 5 pounds something and 19 inches, so pretty long and skinny.

Annibelle Collette Boling

So, my first niece has a version of my middle name. (My middle name is Halley, and her name is Hallie.) Now, my second niece has a version of my last name (Collett/Collette). My third niece will be born in January, and I think I need to let my sister-in-law know to strike while the iron is hot, haha, and use some version of Mimi or Michelle, but spell it slightly differently. :)

Yay! I can't wait to meet my beautiful new family member. (She's in Indiana, so I won't meet her until Christmas.)

I think the green doctor's glove is a little creepy and alienesque, but her little tongue sticking out is so cute that I had to include this one, too. :)

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

MTC Time!

The big day finally came! Ryan Thomas Collett reported to the MTC on October 1, 2008 to go forth and serve in the California Sacramento Mission. How wonderful, huh? He's the 4th out of 5 boys, so just one left! Laurie and Daryl were able to come up to Utah to drop him off, so we had most of the family there. We were just missing Kyle and Kevin who were both in Ohio being diligent and going to school. :)

Amy Collett, Jason Collett, Ryan Collett, Jeffrey Collett, Michelle Collett, Daryl Collett, and Laurie Collett. I guess I didn't really need to write the last name every time in this picture! haha


A few last moments with her boy! He looks so cute with his missionary haircut.

This one gets included just because Jeff looks so darn cute!